tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20794947.post114389772712450558..comments2023-06-14T10:38:45.174-05:00Comments on A Nerd's Country Journal: DadJeff Heberthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13732306951663286466noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20794947.post-1144325919811247012006-04-06T07:18:00.000-05:002006-04-06T07:18:00.000-05:00But that's kind of the point, I came to a peace wi...But that's kind of the point, I came to a peace with Dad years before he died. There were good things about him and bad things about him, but they were all him. Just forgetting about or pretending half of his personality never existed would be like killing him all over again.<BR/><BR/>I don't think I need to "reconcile" anything, that happened years ago. I'm not still that little kid, I just haven't forgotten about him. Our experiences growing up shape us, but they don't define us. To me there's a difference between being at peace with something and pretending like it didn't happen, you know? To me, being at peace means accepting reality for everything it is, good and bad, pleasant and ugly, but not just picking and choosing the parts that you like.Jeff Heberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13732306951663286466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20794947.post-1144297580480622912006-04-05T23:26:00.000-05:002006-04-05T23:26:00.000-05:00Jeff, I read this and my heart aches for that litt...Jeff, I read this and my heart aches for that little boy and the still hurting young boy inside of you. I'll be sending you a separate, private letter, but I feel you will find peace and healing when you can reconcile Dad to your life now. It's not easy, but it will help you tremendously. You are a wonderful man, giving, talented and kind, and your heart is too good to hold these memories. Let go of them, dear brother, and see the wonderful man you are and how much you are loved by others.Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11687342508453441902noreply@blogger.com